Sunday, September 17, 2017

Being Real On Facebook And Other Social Media

It is very tempting these days, to use Facebook and other social media outlets in order to present an
idealized version of ourselves and our lives there.  We are tempted to post only photos that are flattering or even digitally retouched, and while there is nothing wrong with wanting to look good or posting good looking photos of ourselves, we are only cheating ourselves and others when we share only those photos.

That is why, I consciously made the decision not to do that. First of all, I do not share everything about myself and my life on social media in order to protect my privacy, and what I do post is real. I share real moments from my life that  include the photos in which, I do not necessarily look the best, the slimmest or flattering. Here is why.

I don't want to give other people the impression that everything about me is perfect, so that they would not have to feel bad about their own imperfections when they look at them. It is also because I do not want to give bad example to my own children, so that they would not fall into the trap of living fake lives on social media, and then feeling depressed about their real lives, and looks.

And most importantly I want them and others to know that life is not all about looks, but rather experiences, that you don't have to look perfect in order to be happy. In the latest photo I shared with my family and close friends, my husband and I just woke up from our first night ever spent in a tent. We have messy hair, I am in my sleep clothes without any make-up on, but we still look happy, because we are happy just like that.

Do the same thing. Be real on social media. Don't fake it. Do it for yourself, your kids, and the rest of your family and friends. Life is about relationships and experiences. It is very often in the mundane, simple things of life that we get the greatest amount of joy. Quit trying to look perfect. Be real. Be yourself.